Well once again it has all changed
quickly… I really cared for the young
women I took in, I tried and I wanted to help more. But…..
In anger she threatened my children, then tried to apologize and then
threatened again. Through that
experience I could not trust her anymore.
It was unfortunate and another life lesson for me to not mistake kindness
for weakness. She actually tried to use
the kids father, my abuser to harm me in court and brought him to my house to
photograph and go through my trash. It
was amazing that he was not arrested with the two restraining orders I have
against him. On top of it all is sadness
that she would do something like that to harm my children and their stability.
I am not
sure if she was just being an emotional 19 year old or really understood the
consequences of her actions. I mean it
would be like me showing up to her house with her adopted father who sexually
abused her and letting him take her little sister to live with him. IT was crazy…
My kids have
been with me since birth, I am all they know.
There father has worked long hours and never put them first. After all he lied about making $300,000 per
year and never spent a dime on our daughter.
He never went to her Doctor appointments, he never attended the school
function or did any paper work for their doctors or schools. It is puzzling that anyone would think he is
a better choice or parent when you look
at the actual facts. Fact: He has hit me holding my daughter and knew
he was hitting me when I was holding my daughter. He admitted to this in court. FACT:
he never allowed me money for the kids or food, I had to get credit
cards and stuff to help my kids.
FACT: He has demanded furniture
and items like the kids bed to be returned to him immediately. He does not care about their comfort or what
will happen if they don’t have a bed.
FACT: He lies a lot and lied about owning furniture in the house and
many other things on the record in court.
These are
just some of the proven facts, and there are more piling up everyday. Therefore it is amazing or crazy to think a
young women at 19 who has been abused would try to harm my children’s lives and
take away the person that has taken care of them since birth. I think she is trying to hurt me somehow but
really it hurts the kids. I am not hurt
anymore by their father, he cant hit me or tell me what to eat and how to live
anymore. I fear him because he is a
dangerous person but he cant hurt me if he cant get near me.
This young
women continues to try and hurt me and my children and accuses me of hacking
email or other crazy stuff. I gave the
laptops back to the kids father, I don’t even have them or know what she is
talking about? The emails she sends me
are nuts. Even the police are amazed
that anyone would send something so damaging and crazy knowing it would be used
against them. WOW
I really
missed the warning signs on this person is what I think happened. I really should not and will not bring anyone
into my home ever. Just me and the kids
from now on moving forward. That’s the
way it will be and has always been.
SO on to the
positive and good stuff my new life with my children and all the possibilities
that go along with that. I am actually
being considered for a few Compliance Officer position for a few major
corporations. I am hoping to move with the kids to be closer to my
parents and start over. Ultimately this
will fix everything for everyone. Better
schools, better life, and their Grandparents near by.
My kids and
I have a great relationship we love and appreciate each other everyday. They are sooo much happier these days with
just the three of us at home. I can see
in their eyes what a great mother I am to them and am frequently told this by
the multiple parent groups and non-profits for kids I participate or are a
board member for now. My life is wonderful
and I am pleased to be with my kids on Mothers day and every other day after.
